Therapist offers Cleveland Cavaliers fans advice on how to deal with LeBron James' departure

Dear Dr. Michael McKee,  I have a friend. Let's call her Cleveland.  She thought she'd met The One. He was everything she'd ever dreamed of, and he even grew up in the same area. He seemed to really understand her, how she longed for a relationship that would last, one that would fill her need for a ring<strong> </strong>after...

Dear Dr. Michael McKee, 

I have a friend. Let's call her Cleveland.  She thought she'd met The One. He was everything she'd ever dreamed of, and he even grew up in the same area. He seemed to really understand her, how she longed for a relationship that would last, one that would fill her need for a ring<strong> </strong>after 46 years of longing.  

 He made big promises, told her he loved her, vowed to light her up like Vegas. All her friends loved him, too. They had some great years together, went places she'd never been before and she started to think it was forever. 

Then he broke up with her. Oh, there had been some signs of trouble. He flirted with others, like the Yankees and the Cowboys. At the end of their last year together, it seemed as if his heart wasn't in it. 

But she thought somehow they'd get through it. But then he told <em>everybody </em>it was over. No thanks for the memories or anything. He just announced he was dumping her for a hotter option. 

She was devastated. She alternated between being furious, crushed and embarrassed. 

Now he wants to see her again, and as her friends, we're not sure how she should respond. 

So, Dr. McKee, what should we do? 

Dear "Cleveland," 

I realize it will be difficult when he comes back to town. It's sort of the way people must have felt after the Revolutionary War when Benedict Arnold came back with the British negotiators. It doesn't feel good to have someone you experienced as a traitor in your midst. 

It's inevitable that you're going to see him again. You've got to get it over with, and it's awkward and difficult when you do it. But even though the ending was bad, you're probably not going to go up and smack him in the face or spit in his face if there are a bunch of other people around. 

And after all that, would you really want him back anyway? What's the point? 

I think the best opportunity you have is to show that you can handle it with class. You want to say, 'Eat your heart out. See what you're missing?' He's not going to do that if all you do is act like a jerk. That makes him think, 'I'm happy to be out of there.' 

Enjoy the time you had with him. You had the good times. You had the good years. Everybody else is going to get him in the tarnished years, and it won't be the same at all. You had the age of innocence, a time of excitement and winning games and it was good for you, Cleveland. 

Right now, he's just another guy, not even worth being jealous about. 

I would make a case for positive psychology. If you just feel all the anger and hatred coming, it's bad for you, releases a lot of stress chemicals, doesn't help your health, doesn't help your well-being, doesn't help your mood. The Chinese symbol for stress consists of two symbols. One of them is for threat, and one of them is for challenge. Psychological stress is reduced when you can view the situation as a challenge rather than a threat. 

If you can feel more positively about life and about him, it's a better position to be in. You're going to meet him again at a great big party, so you have an opportunity to let the whole world see your class, Cleveland. Hold your head high and grab it.